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Hope – Cynthia Bourgeault

“Hope’s home is at the inner most point in us and in all things.
It is a quality of aliveness.

It does not come at the end as the feeling that results from a happy outcome, rather it lies at the beginning, as a pulse of truth that sends us forth.
When our inner most being is attuned to this pulse it will send us forth in hope regardless of the physical circumstances of our lives.
Hope fills us with the strength to stay present, to abide in the flow of mercy, no matter what outer storms assail us.

It is entered always and only through surrender, that is, through the willingness to let go of everything we are presently clinging to, and yet when we enter it, it enters us us and fills us with its own life, a quiet strength beyond anything we have ever known.”

– Cynthia Bourgeault

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Become – Derek Hart

“I have been asked over 25,000 questions about relationships.
A client today asked me if I had to give one answer to all of those questions, if I had only one chance to answer all 25,000 questions, what would be my answer?

Here’s my answer.

“Become more aware of what is happening inside you, your body, your sensations, your emotions, your stories. Challenge all that you believe about our World.
Know that all distress, all trauma… comes from not understanding how your history, when unsafe, made you adjust and over-compensate, and you developed coping strategies with your imperfect parents.

Those coping strategies now mean that you cannot connect the dots between the current moment, your feelings inside, what those feelings are, how they relate to this moment, and how they relate to your past.

You have had to create meaning out of all the moments, starting young, when you were let down and not satisfied with those that were supposed to be the ones that cared for you and installed in you a safe or unsafe Universe.
Without this awareness inside, you react, and you set off the alarms in the person across from you… the alarms that they have not made contact with.
In some moments it might seem like you know what your feelings are, and what needs you have, and how those needs will help you.

You are often wrong.
Knowing what we need is very difficult.
What we usually need is deep understanding at a feeling level, and to have that, both partners must know how.
And not knowing how makes us human.
So both partners have to have the intention of wanting to learn how.
That is truly what is needed to begin.
If you are fighting about your frustrations, and not in contact with a much deeper need for understanding, then the softer primary emotions, like hurt, fear, sadness, joy… are not being made contact with.
Only gentleness with the above can heal.
It’s hard for me.
It’s hard for you.
And the person in front of you… it’s also hard for… and he/she would probably make better choices… if he/she knew how.
We must be taught this if it was skipped in childhood, with imperfect frustrated parents.”

– Derek Hart

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Foreboding of an America ― Carl Sagan

“I have a foreboding of an America in my children’s or grandchildren’s time — when the United States is a service and information economy; when nearly all the manufacturing industries have slipped away to other countries; when awesome technological powers are in the hands of a very few, and no one representing the public interest can even grasp the issues; when the people have lost the ability to set their own agendas or knowledgeably question those in authority; when, clutching our crystals and nervously consulting our horoscopes, our critical faculties in decline, unable to distinguish between what feels good and what’s true, we slide, almost without noticing, back into superstition and darkness…

The dumbing down of American is most evident in the slow decay of substantive content in the enormously influential media, the 30 second sound bites (now down to 10 seconds or less), lowest common denominator programming, credulous presentations on pseudoscience and superstition, but especially a kind of celebration of ignorance”

― Carl Sagan, The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark

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The Palace becomes a Circus – Turkish Proverb

“When a Clown moves into the Palace, he doesn’t become a King, The Palace becomes a Circus.”
– Turkish Proverb

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Ashamed of myself – Franz Kafka

“I was ashamed of myself when I realised that life was a masquerade party, and I attended it with my true face.”

– Franz Kafka

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Pain – Marcus Aurelius

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

– Marcus Aurelius

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Tears – Seneca

“What need is there to weep over parts of life? The whole of it calls for tears.”
– Seneca

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In your – Rumi

“In your light I learn how to love. In your beauty, how to make poems. You dance inside my chest where no one sees you, but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art.”

― Rumi

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Happiness – Bertrand Russell

“The world is vast and our own powers are limited. If all our happiness is bound up entirely in our personal circumstances it is difficult not to demand of life more than it has to give. And to demand too much is the surest way of getting even less than is possible. The man who can forget his worries by means of a genuine interest in, say, the Council of Trent, or the life history of stars, will find that, when he returns from his excursion into the impersonal world, he has acquired a poise and calm which enable him to deal with his worries in the best way, and he will in the meantime have experienced a genuine even if temporary happiness.”

– Bertrand Russell

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Peace – Unknown

“Peace comes in pieces”.
– Unknown

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Seeds – Robert Louis Stevenson

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant.”

– Robert Louis Stevenson

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Le Coeur – Pascal

“Le coeur a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point.”
(The heart has its reasons that reason does not know.)

– Pascal

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Happening – Unknown

“Maybe this isn’t happening to you. Maybe it’s happening for you.”
– Unknown

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Spiritual Bypass – Jeff Foster

THE GREAT SPIRITUAL BYPASS
“The Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist John Welwood coined the wonderful phrase “spiritual bypassing”, which means, in his own words, “trying to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it.”

I so agree with John Welwood. I think one of the biggest shadow sides of spirituality in general is that it can make us lose touch with our humanity. We dream of the heavens and forget the earth. Which is ironic, since our deep humanity IS the source of our most profound spirituality, so we’re kind of shooting ourselves in the foot there.

In the name of peace, we go to war with ourselves. In the name of being non-violent, or at least seeing ourselves as non-violent, we repress, suppress, deny and hide aspects of ourselves that don’t conform to that ideal, that image. We bury our anger, our grief, our fear. We swallow words we need to speak, say yes when we mean no, avoid setting boundaries in order to be “compassionate” and “kind” and “unconditionally loving”, and not hurt others’ feelings. We stifle our passions, our creativity, our sensuality, our deep, raw, intense, messy humanity, in order to appear to be “still” and “silent” and “calm” and “non-reactive”. We smile when really we’re breaking apart inside, stay quiet and still when we feel like screaming. In other words, we ignore our buried trauma. We push away those painful, inconvenient, shameful and embarrassing parts of ourselves. We avoid the darkness and try to reach the light, and then call ourselves… “spiritual”!

But whatever we suppress and repress in ourselves doesn’t go away. However enlightened or peaceful or “deeply rooted in Pure Awareness” we pretend to be, those un-met, unprocessed, unseen and unenlightened energies stay rooted in our bodies, in our nervous systems, in our muscles, manifesting in our dreams and nightmares. The monster inside us doesn’t go away by singing mantras, contorting ourselves into yoga postures, praying to the guru or visiting ashrams. The monster only goes away once it’s met in a really embodied way. And to meet it we’re going to have to be brave and stop pretending. We’re going to have to stop being perfect and spiritual and unconditionally loving and wise and good and calm and neutral, and tell the truth of our actual human experience. We’re going to have to really meet our inner child. Feel the grief, the anger, the terror that’s lurking inside. Feel it and process it and validate it and give it expression in a healthy way. And then, and only then, the darkness inside us may turn out to be our greatest light-source. Our wounds may give us an insane amount of wisdom and courage. Our pains may help us find our passions. But we can’t skip over the trauma. We can’t skip to en-lightenment without en-lightening ALL our parts. Without making room for the sorrow, the joy, the tears and the laughter, the anger and the awe.
I have learnt this the hard way. I used to run from feelings. I used to be scared of them, judge others for having them. Now, feelings are my dearest friends and companions, and sources of joy and creativity. I used to believe enlightenment was a transcendent state, free from sadness, free from anger, free from doubt. But that was my mind telling me that. That was my spiritual ego, the part of me that wanted to be special, that wanted to escape, that wanted to be superior and safe. I came to realise that enlightenment, if there is any such thing, is a deeply vibrantly alive ocean, filled with beautiful waves of anger and sorrow and fear and doubt and joy and bliss, filled with all of humanity, filled with deep feeling, and no feeling is pushed away, and all feelings can be felt and can move through and can be expressed in a truthful and authentic way. I don’t need to pretend to be free, or pretend to be peaceful, or pretend to be wise, or pretend to be neutral, or pretend to be more evolved than anyone else, or pretend to be anything at all. Just being alive is enough – alive, and open, and curious, and playful, and deeply human, and committed to this path of ever-deepening adventure in the Unknown.

We cannot bypass our trauma because then we are bypassing life itself, and life won’t let us bypass it anyway. Our trauma, when faced, will heal us, break us open to more life, make us more compassionate, more authentic. When not faced, it will drain us, make us act out unconsciously, it will hurt us and the ones we love, it will make us addicted, it will make us sick, it will destroy relationships and make us false beings. So we can’t bypass our hurt and angry places in the name of spirituality, because we want to be true, real, authentic. We want to heal, and be Whole. True spirituality calls us to face everything. Everything inside of us that needs to be faced. It calls us to face our hot, sticky, dark, embarrassing, angry, scared, shaky and sexy and fiery places. It calls us to speak up, even if we are terrified and feel like we want to vomit. It calls us to finally express what’s inside us, even if we lose all our friends. It calls us to be deeply human as much as we are Pure Awareness, deeply humble as much as we are divine, earthy and messy and imperfect as much as we are absolute and transcendent.

We don’t get to be perfect, but we get to be real… and that is the greatest prize of all.

– Jeff Foster

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Sweetest Peach – Unknown

“You might the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don’t like peaches.”

– Unknown