Tag: Jonathan Cainer

“Would you like to know one of the most dangerous phrases in the language? It is the one that goes, ‘I will be happy if…’ Every time we utter such a comment, we make ourselves into a hostage to fortune. It hardly matters what you are hoping for, the fact that you will be ‘happy if’ implies that you will be unhappy ‘if not’. We must always take care not to let our happiness be dependent on any development. Priority number one for you, is to allow yourself to be happy, regardless of how things turn out.”

– Jonathan Cainer

“Denial is a side-effect of cowardice. Consciousness requires courage. When we are afraid to deal with an issue, we try to pretend it doesn’t exist. That’s particularly convenient when we don’t know what to do. Ignore it, we figure, and maybe it will go away. It takes real strength to say, ‘I don’t have the answer and I’m worried that even if I can get it, I may not like it, but I am going to keep on asking questions anyhow.’ The latter approach, though, you can take with honour. You will be surprised how well it works.”

– Jonathan Cainer